It’s been over a year since I last wrote an entry for this blog so there’s a lot to catch up on – Let’s start with this weekend.
1 year married already…. where has that time gone?
For our first wedding anniversary I set Adam a challenge because I always have to arrange everything; trips, days out, meals etc. So… we agreed some time off and a budget and then it was over to him.
I was thinking he might book us a spa break or something luxury and when he told me to catch the train to Gloucester and meet him there I had no idea what to expect.
He’d booked us a nice hotel and surprised me by having our dog Tilly with him (it’s ok the hotel allowed it at an extra charge) which was the best surprise ever! We spent some time in the pool and spa area and then had a nice dinner. So far, so good.
Over our evening meal he revealed the plans for the next 2 days which were…. canoeing the River Wye and camping overnight. Luckily for Adam I was half expecting something outdoorsy and even luckier I was up for it!
We had a good night’s rest and Tilly made the most of the King/queen size bed
and Adam even packed us some prosecco and smoked salmon to have on the river. I was truly impressed as we bobbed away eating, drinking (sensibly!) and chatting, feeling that my husband had done well. I then heard the beginning of what I thought was going to be a heart felt and romantic sentence on our one year wedding anniversary…
“For the rest of my life I want to…….study nature”
Haha what did I really expect?!
Adam and I love skiing. We hadn’t been for a few years and we were so excited for some time in the Alps.
Mountains and forests, what more could he want?
He spent hours upon hours making them, scraping the skins, dressing them, softening them etc etc. Then came the patterns, the cutting and the sewing. At least we have kids I know he can make the Halloween and school play costumes!
Adam and I have always enjoyed Christmas and really he’s the one that made me love it. He always warms lots of mulled wine, and makes the Christmas cake for me to decorate (here is last year’s)
This year was a little different….
Adam spent ALL of his time on bushcraft. He warmed mulled wine and lit fires and that’s about it. The rest of his time was spent mostly scraping skins (including on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and Boxing Day). I’m so glad we had our kitchen done so that he could soak eggs in a bucket comfortably…
I ended up making the wreath and had to buy the loop rather than having a home made willow one.
I went and chose the tree and decorated it, then he put his home made snow shoes next to it
Fortunately for Adam we had some trips booked to see family so he had to leave the skins for a day. We took our dog for a walk/basket ride (in a basket Adam had made from bark) because she had a bad leg.
Next year it’s Adam’s turn to shop for, prepare, and cook Christmas dinner alone. Who knows what we will end up with. Venison I’d guess from all the skins about the place! 😜
So far our Christmas has consisted of me doing all the present shopping and wrapping and Adam making things for his upcoming trip to Sweden. Such as;
- Fox fur hat
- Snow shoes mark 2
- A canvas tent
- Tons of other stuff that gets him out of housework…
Now I consider myself to be quite a patient and understanding wife to the lovely Adam and I think anyone who knows us (or reads this blog) will agree with that!
However, even I have limits.
Early discussions with Adam about his wedding attire were, shall we say ‘difficult’
He’s not exactly into his fashion or clothing and would happily wear the same clothes for days if it wasn’t for my nagging!
I tried to make it clear from the start that this was the one day I’d like him to look smart 🙂 he accepted this but really wanted to wear a buckskin shirt. I wasn’t so keen. Then he talked about wearing buckskin moccasins which I was more comfortable with (because they wouldn’t be in many photos!).
Eventually though Adam came up with a much better compromise….
Adam: ‘I’ve got an idea about how we can get more bushcraft into the wedding’
Jo thinks: ‘oh great, just what every girl wants!’
Jo says: ‘ok?’
Adam: ‘why don’t we have a manikin dressed in all the clothes and items I’ve made?’
Jo thinks: ‘oh I dunno, maybe cos it’s a wedding and that’s weird!!’
Jo says: ‘hmmm yeah maybe…’
Adam: ‘it could meet people at the entrance, you know almost to show what I would have wanted to wear, my alter ego’
Jo thinks: ‘ah, I see, I need to play this cool. If he has a manikin wearing all the weird stuff that should mean I can have him wearing an actual normal person groom outfit. Seems a small price to pay….’
Jo says: ‘yes, that’s perfect. lets do that :), people will love it!’
I have to admit, it was slightly more extravagant that I had in mind and included from memory;
- buckskin hoody
- wooden (long?) bow
- a buckskin quiver full of arrows with actual flint or stone tips
- a knife Adam made to cut the cake and held in a buckskin sheath
- sheep skin mitts (or something like that?!)
- a plaited bark belt
- a bark quiver kind of container
- an adze (?)
- a grass skirt
- a fox skin hat
- birch bark goggles
- snow shoes
- a moose ear pouch
- a bark back pack
There were other bits I know, some kind of container and a thingy for when you shoot an arrow to protect your arm, and probably some other bits that I cant remember 🙂
Anyway, you get the point. He really took that opportunity of an understanding and accommodating wife and ran with it!!
We wanted to have as much nature as possible in our wedding and really didn’t fancy metallic shiny confetti or even paper. We wanted it to be real petals and initially I was going to buy petals from the local florist. However, it is unbelievable what they charge!
So… the next plan, collect our own 🙂
Flint’s mum came for dinner last night. She’s a very thoughtful guest and always brings a little something; a bottle of wine, some flowers, something she baked etc.
Last night was no exception and she arrived with a lovely bouquet of fresh flowers which I displayed in the lounge window – rooms feel so much better with a fresh display 🙂
Leaving the pub about 9pm we saw this lovely view of the sunset and it was a great end to a day off together.
Out she gets a dead garden snake that she found on her doorstep that morning. I’m… Well not that interested to be honest so I go upstairs to get in my pjs and leave them discussing this snake.
I can hear them talking about what it is and why it was on her doorstep and then they are doing that typically British thing of ‘well you have it if you would like it’ ‘oh no, not if you want it’ until eventually Adam accepts the gift happily 🙂 funny how they didn’t consider asking me if I would like it… Strange that!!
Adam’s mum lives quite nearby so we see her regularly. I am glad someone understands him but I am wondering what the next ‘gift’ will be!! X
Adam loves working with wood but most often its carving bowls or making work benches. This time though his skills were mega handy and a lovely surprise when I got home from work last night 🙂
He made us a stand for our wellies outside the door 🙂
For the wedding we were really wanting to add some personal touches and I did loads in terms of individual guest information, photos etc. Adam also thought it would be really nice to make our own elderflower champagne.